Grief is an elephant in the room that often goes unacknowledged. When we experience the loss of a loved one or go through a painful divorce, we anticipate that our relationships will change. However, many people struggle to find the right words to say and end up saying nothing at all. This lack of support can leave us feeling unseen and unsupported, intensifying our pain. In this article, I want to explore the journey of supporting others through grief and offer tangible ways to cultivate courage and compassion.
This was a very powerful example of others supporting me in times of crisis. Before my husband and daughter died in 2004, I had already experienced traumatic life events, including being in the psychiatric unit, which I share in detail in my book, ‘From The Deepest Darkness To The Light of Hope.’ Today, I want to reflect on my journey over the past 20 years, focusing on the theme of supporting others and the challenges that often arise in this area.
When my husband and daughter were tragically taken from me, I found myself without a home or a car. In the midst of this overwhelming loss, my community, friends from church, and even the place where my late husband and I had planned to move were incredibly kind and supportive. My family sent money, and friends from church pitched in, with one generous couple even providing me with a car. Their acts of kindness were a lifeline during those dark days.
However, even with all of that help, I still had to summon the courage to seek assistance from organizations like Catholic Charities to pay my rent. Asking for help during times of crisis or grief can be one of the hardest things to do. It requires vulnerability and strength, as well as the willingness to face potential judgment or shame from others. Unfortunately, not everyone understands the complex emotions and challenges we face during these times, which can make reaching out for help even more difficult.
This experience highlighted the importance of support and understanding when someone is going through a crisis. It also sheds light on the potential barriers and stigma that can exist when seeking help. As someone who has walked this path, I am passionate about empowering others to navigate these challenges and offer practical guidance on how to support those who are grieving.
In my own journey, I have learned the power of compassion and the impact that small gestures can have on someone who is grieving. That is why I created resources like the free download ’10 Down-to-Earth Ways to Support Someone Who Is Grieving.’ It provides tangible and practical tips for offering support, such as setting reminders to reach out regularly and normalizing the range of emotions that accompany grief.
At Serenity’s Solace, we offer a supportive community for those navigating the complexities of grief, trauma, and loss. Our membership provides access to a wealth of resources, including guided journals, mini-courses, and a safe space to connect with others who understand. It is a place where you can find solace, understanding, and the tools to support yourself and others on this journey.
The call to action is clear: if you are seeking resources to support yourself through grief, I invite you to join our membership, explore our guided journals and mini-courses, and discover the healing power of community. If you want to learn more about how to support others, I encourage you to sign up for Serenity’s Embrace Resource Library, where you will find valuable insights and practical guidance.
Together, we can create a world where support and understanding are readily available to those who are grieving. Let us walk this path together, offering compassion and strength to one another along the way.”
To read more about “Tangible Support” Click here for the second article in this series.